I am more interested in the quality of your character than the thickness of your wallet, the position of your hairline, or the shape of your ass. – Me @ 30 and dating post divorce

12/01/2018 Update

Two weeks ago I lost a close friend that had come to be my best friend and unofficially adopted daughter. We had just over 2 years of friendship, but we are special souls and instantly recognized the yin and yang of the other. My grief feels relentless and reflects in all aspects of my life and times, including this blog.

In 2018, nearly all my time and energy for writing went to my pal. She needed it, and me, more than she could express in words. Parts of her hated herself for that need, but in the end I believe she came to truly understand what it means to be in my Tribe. That means the world to me.

And now she’s gone. My world shrank again, and I find a lot of time and energy needs a new, productive home.

Thankfully I blog. I am glad to still have someplace to deposit the churns my head produces.

I have thought a lot about character, values, life’s importance and priorities in the last year. It has been a central tenant in evolving relationships. And since I suddenly realize I am old and am reminded – again – that tomorrow is not promised, it is a good idea to externalize the thought churn rather than let it run like the hamster wheel it is inside my head.

Plus I am thinking about new objectives for 2019. I do not do resolutions or goals, but objectives seem manageable. Writing about it – the good, the bad, the OMG so ugly! – of it all helps enormously.

So here we go.

I thought I was an old soul, and that I knew life, but then starting the real life, I figured I am completely new. – Yael Naim

I am a wife, a mother, a self-employed business-woman, and once again a blogger.

My husband M and I have been married 20 years, together nearly 27 years. This is my second marriage, my grown children (from my first marriage) are both married and out of the house.

In 2015 I began working toward what ultimately has evolved into my better health quest. What began as my latest attempt to learn to exercise safely and sanely has turned into a gym hamster (rats are kind of unsavory characters). I am far healthier and happier than when we started and great friendships have evolved.